Tips for Successful Goal Setting - from Wendy Betterini
When we first begin working toward a goal, we are filled with
passion, fire and excitement. We feel invincible and we just
know that we can accomplish whatever we desire. We take off
running toward our goal, determined to make it happen, and we
know we CAN make it happen.
Then we begin to encounter some obstacles. We may struggle
through a few of them, but then we begin making excuses for not
working on our goals. Perhaps we lose interest and get
overwhelmed with daily activities. Before we know it, our goal
has been placed on the "back burner" and we are no longer
working toward it. Worse, maybe we no longer believe that we
CAN make our dreams a reality. What happened? In my own
experience, there are four key ingredients to making your
dreams come true.
Why - What is your reason for wanting this particular goal?
Let's say your goal is to buy a house. Ask yourself why you
want that. Your answer may be something along the lines of,
"Because I want to own my own property rather than paying rent
for the rest of my life." Okay good. But why? What does it
matter if you own your own property or pay rent? Your answer
might now be, "Because I want to have the house paid off by the
time I retire, so I don't have to worry about paying rent or a
mortgage payment on a fixed income." Great! But why? What will
that do for you? Keep asking yourself WHY, and writing down
your answers until you get to the "meat" of your desire. Once
you have a clear desire in mind . . .
Believe You Deserve It - many of us struggle with low
self-esteem and at a core level, we don't feel we deserve
success and abundance. Guess what? If we don't believe we
deserve it, we will resist it when it arrives. We may do this
unconsciously by sabotaging our own efforts, or we may outright
refuse to even try. We must first understand and then truly
believe that we DO deserve success and abundance. In addition,
we must be willing to receive it. We're so good at giving to
others, but many of us won't accept help or blessings for
ourselves. We feel it is better to give than to receive, and in
some ways it is. However, that doesn't mean we shouldn't receive
at all. Be willing to believe that you deserve to be successful
and happy. Then be willing to accept that abundance when it
arrives. Affirm aloud to the universe each day, "I joyfully
accept all of the abundance and happiness the universe has for
me, NOW."
Step by Step - If your goal is to buy a house, you likely have
alot of smaller goals that must be accomplished first. You will
need to build up a savings for the downpayment. You may need to
clean up your credit report and pay down existing debt. You
will need to see if you qualify for a mortgage loan. Always
keep your ultimate goal in mind, but focus on the smaller steps
that will get you there first. If I wanted to drive to
California, I'd have to pay attention to the route I need to
take to get there, not just the destination. Write out a list
of the smaller steps that will help you reach your goal, and
then begin working on them one at a time. Don't overwhelm
yourself by thinking only of that big, shining vision of the
completed project.
No Matter What - Decide that you will do this, no matter what.
No matter what obstacles come up, no matter if your desire and
determination begin to fade. True success comes to those who
just won't give up. Make a promise to yourself that you will
continue working toward your goals no matter what happens.
Write this promise out and put it somewhere you will see it.
Read it aloud to yourself every single day.
Keep reminding yourself that nothing will change unless you
change it. Fuel your determination with positive thoughts and
keep moving forward. If obstacles come up, find a way around
them. If there is absolutely no way around a particular
obstacle, switch your focus and begin working on another aspect
of your goals. Many times obstacles will fade away if given
enough time, or sometimes a solution presents itself when we
least expect it. Let your determination glow hot and bright,
and burn away all doubts and fears. Know that you can do it,
and you will.
About The Author: Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer who
strives to motivate, uplift, and inspire you to make your
dreams a reality. Visit her website,
www.WingsForTheHeart.Com
for more positive thoughts to help you on your journey.